PRESENTER: Kimberly Kramar
TOPIC: Healing through Forgiveness
Live transmission: Monday, april 24, 2017
Time: Miami 18:00 p.m. / Mexico – Colombia 19:00 / Argentina 21:00 / Europe 00:00
SPECIAL GUESTS: Music ministry - Cristy Villaseñor, MaryCarmen Barría, Rogelio Casasola and Kiki Troia
Purpose of message:
We will address the link between physical health and spiritual health, recognizing the importance of forgiveness and how to achieve it to have peace within ourselves, to be healed and to be able to give and receive love. We will also understand the importance of witnessing to our faith from the prayer Jesus taught us:
"Father forgive us
As we forgive those who trespass against us."
70 x 7:
How many times should we forgive?:
Matt 18, 21 – 22 Then Peter approaching asked him, "Lord, if my brother sins against me, how often must I forgive him? As many as seven times?" Jesus answered, "I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times.
• Justice vs. Mercy: forgiveness in the Old Testament and the New Testament
• Revenge: "an eye for an eye"...
Matt 18, 32 – 35 The parable of the official who did not want to forgive
His master summoned him and said to him, 'You wicked servant! I forgave you your entire debt because you begged me to. Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant, as I had pity on you?' Then in anger his master handed him over to the torturers until he should pay back the whole debt. So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives his brother from his heart."
• Forgive to be forgiven
Is 43, 25 “I, even I, am the one who wipes out your transgressions for My own sake, and I will not remember your sins.
• How does God forgive?: Forgiveness in relation to the memory of the offense
Do not abuse God's forgiveness:
Eccl 5, 4 – 7 Do not say, “I sinned, and what happened to me?”, for the Lord is slow to anger. Do not be so confident of atonement that you add sin to sin. Do not say, “His mercy is great, he will forgiveu the multitude of my sins,” for both mercy and wrath are with him, and his anger rests on sinners. Do not delay to turn to the Lord, nor postpone it from day to day; for suddenly the wrath of the Lord will go forth, and at the time of punishment you will perish.
God forgives us if we forgive:
Eccl 28, 1 – 7 He that takes vengeance will suffer vengeance from the Lord, and he will firmly establisho his sins. Forgive your neighbor the wrong he has done, and then your sins will be pardoned when you pray. Does a man harbor anger against another, and yet seek for healing from the Lord? Does he have no mercy toward a man like himself, and yet pray for his own sins?...
• The relationship between resentment and disease
Rom 4, 7 – 8 “Blessed are they whose iniquities are forgiven and whose sins are covered. Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord does not record."
In order to be able to forgive and be healed we need to understand the difference between offenses and to identify if they are:
• Deadly Sins - Venial Sins: Different Types of Offenses
• Offenses committed against us in our childhood or in the past
• Repeated offenses: How often to forgive ?, Abuse, alcoholism and drug addiction, infidelity, etc.
• Intentional offenses - Premeditated, intent to cause harm
• Offense of omission - "I was not taken into account", of abandonment, of physical and emotional absences,
• Revenge offenses
• The differences in the responses of the offender and the offended Christian and Non-Christian
“When we recognize that we are all sinners in need of forgiveness, it will be easy to forgive others. We have to be forgiven so we can forgive.”
St. Teresa of Calcutta
Path # 713 You do not go against God. "Your falls are fragile. "Conform: but such frailties are so frequent! -you do not know how to avoid them-that if you do not want me to take you for bad, I'll have you as bad and foolish.
San José María Escrivá de Balaguer
Common responses to offenses:
• Denial - Concealment
• Depression and Self-pity
• Anger and Sadness
• Renders and Resentments
• Desire for Revenge
• Acceptance – Liability
Ps 51 …Pray me, O God, for your love, for your immense compassion, erase my guilt; clear all my iniquity, cleanse my sin. For I acknowledge my guilt, I have always kept my sin in mind; Against thee, thou alone shall sin against thee; I did what you hate.
The relationship between forgiveness and repentance:
• Sincere Repentance
• Repentance for consequences, in return for repentance for committing offense
• The humiliation
• Empathy and understanding of harm
• Strong intention to change
Path #712 Too deep is your fall! "Start the foundation from down there." - Be humble ... God would not despise a contrite and humiliated heart.
San José María Escrivá de Balaguer
Ps 34, 18 The Lord is at hand, to save those who have their hearts broken in pieces and have lost hope.
Matt 5, 23 – 24 Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar, and there recall that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there at the altar, go first and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
• With God
• With the offended
• With others affected
Jn 20, 22 – 23 And when he had said this, he breathed on them and said to them, "receive the holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained."
“Only in confession can we enter as sinners with sin and come out as sinless sinners. Confession is humility in action.
This is humility: having the courage to accept humiliation and receive God's forgiveness.
Reconciliation begins with us.
It begins with a pure heart, a heart capable of finding God in others.”
St. Teresa of Calcutta
Lk 18, 14 …for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and the one who humbles himself will be exalted."
Eccl 4, 26 Do not be ashamed to confess your sins, and do not try to stop the current of a river.
Lk 15, 21 His son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you; I no longer deserve to be called your son.'
The request for forgiveness:
"Go wherever you want;
You will find nothing but my mercy.
I come to all my children, both the sinner and the saint
. To what they abandon me in their wickedness,
When they return, I tell them:
"I do not keep the offenses you have made me remembering them.
My mercy surpasses sin and death”.
Saint Catherine of Siena
Matt 6, 14 – 15 If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.
• What it means - what does not: Forgiveness does not justify action, leave justice and revenge in the hands of God
• Why forgive?
• Who has to ask for forgiveness first?: Win or be happy?
• We have been created in the image of God: When we forgive, we reflect God (love, faithfulness, mercy, humility, the ability to forgive)
Isa 53, 6 All of us like sheep have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; but the Lord has caused the iniquity of us all to fall on Him.
Guilt and Consequences:
2 Sam 24, 17 Then David spoke to the Lord when he saw the angel who was striking down the people, and said, “Behold, it is I who have sinned, and it is I who have done wrong; but these sheep, what have they done? Please let Your hand be against me and against my father’s house.”
• Our sins affect others: The prodigal son, the Father, and the elder brother
• The patience of God has its limits: eg. Delia; Lk 16, 19 The bad guy and Lazarus
Path #261 I forbid you to think more about it. "Instead, bless God, who gave life back to your soul.
#262 Do not think about your fall anymore. "That thought, in addition to the slab that covers and overwhelms you, will easily be the occasion of future temptations." Christ, I forgive you: forget the old man.
San José María Escrivá de Balaguer
Heb 10, 26 – 27 If we sin deliberately after receiving knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains sacrifice for sins but a fearful prospect of judgment and a flaming fire that is going to consume the adversaries.
Eccl 16, 11 – 12 …For mercy and wrath are with the Lord; he is mighty to forgive, and he pours out wrath. As great as his mercy, so great is also his reproof; he judges a man according to his deeds.
Eccl 21, 1 – 2 Have you sinned, my son? Do so no more, but pray about your former sins. Flee from sin as from a snake; for if you approach sin, it will bite you. Its teeth are lion’s teeth, and destroy the souls of men.
Repair and restitution:
Lk 19, 8 - 10 But Zacchaeus stood there and said to the Lord, "Behold, half of my possessions, Lord, I shall give to the poor, and if I have extorted anything from anyone I shall repay it four times over." And Jesus said to him, "Today salvation has come to this house because this man too is a descendant of Abraham. For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save what was lost."
• Forgiveness is the first step toward liberation and new life offered by Jesus Christ
• But we also need to heal the wounds in our souls as a consequence of our sins and / or the sins committed against us.
• Learn to deal with the emotions of anger and sadness (Prov 19, 11 A man's prudence rules his wrath, and his glory is to pass over an offense)
• Resentment: (Eccl 28, 7 Remember the commandments, and do not be angry with your neighbor; remember the covenant of the Most High, and overlook ignorance. Eccl 10, 6 Do not be angry with your neighbor for any injury, and do not attempt anything by acts of insolence).
• Depression: Seeking professional help and spiritual direction
• Acceptance: “Defective” people
Physical and mental health as a result of forgiveness:
Lk 5, 17 – 26 Jesus heals a paralytic: (v. 22-25) Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them in reply, "What are you thinking in your hearts? Which is easier, to say, 'Your sins are forgiven,' or to say, 'Rise and walk'? But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins" he said to the man who was paralyzed, "I say to you, rise, pick up your stretcher, and go home." He stood up immediately before them, picked up what he had been lying on, and went home, glorifying God.
• Jesus' authority to forgive sins
• The order: Get up, take your bed, and go home
Forgiveness: essential in the process of
Conversion, growth and sanctification:
• How to live this message of Forgiveness during this Easter period?